Before you allow him to go through that do your research on it medically. Some cultures circumsize women and it is a barbaric practice with no benefit what so ever to them so because something is a cultural thing doesn't make it a wise decision. With a male it is different but it is very painful for them at an older age. My take on it is if it isn't broke don't fix it. If your son was having a problem like your other son then yes have it repaired but if there is nothing wrong why risk infection and other complication just because of some old custom.
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Does the WBTS encourage circumcision?
by Frazzled UBM inmy wife is determined that my son will get circumcised when he is 10 or 11. i tell her that if she wanted him circumcised she should have done it when he was born and that it will be his choice and if he says no i will support him all the way.
one thinkg i am not sure of is whether she is so adamant about this because the wbts requires or encourages it or because it is a cultrual practice int eh philippines (certainly leaving it until 10 or 11 seems to be a filipino thing.
so my question is more directed at the practice of circumcision rather than the age at which it is done..
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Do you have wood floors? What cleaner do you use?
by Iamallcool ini have bona for years but i am looking to try something else.
any recommendations?.
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Aunt Fancy
Do your floors have a seal on them? I have heard that white vinegar is great to use on them and it is inexpensive to use.
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Thank you LoisLane Looking for Superman
by TotallyADD inmy wife and i ran up against a brick wall trying to find out imformation on our search of finding my half brother.
will loislane pm me and offered us her service in finding him.
found us some very good leads but surprise, surprise she came across someone i totally forgot about from my childhood.
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Aunt Fancy
That was a truly kind thing to do for someone. I hope you will someday find your half brother but in the mean time enjoy your newly found family. Lois is a real gem.
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Hi! I'm back...
by babygirl30 init's been awhile since i have been back and posted here - went through some things/changes in my life (good/bad).
but just wanted to say (hi) to all my ex-jw's and lingerers!
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome back, we are here for you when you no matter what. Hope you are in a happier place.
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Your Baptism
by Aunt Fancy inwe have been going through our literature and throwing away a lot of it which feels great.
my hubby came cross the program from my baptism in 1986. the divine peace dc held in the astrodome in houston, tx.
he always wrote the attendance and the amount baptized so on that day there were 30,894 in attendance nd 531 baptized!
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Aunt Fancy
Wasblind, I am sure your daughter is VERY THANKFUL that you sent her to college and that you never got baptized which was very wise of you. I understand the anger because I struggle with it. I try not to let it take over but sometimes it spills out because I lost 30 years to it.
I understand what you did for her because I grew up in the NE and the area I grew up in was once very wealthy with many oil refineries but they are long gone and most of my classmates moved away after HS. I am thankful I was not a born in so I had a very normal and happy childhood and I have drawn on it to help me get back to a better place.
Many people are thoughtless when they say things like that. Some going through shunning from family members have a lot of heartbreak and they have every right in the world to be angry. It isn't normal at all to treat your fellow man this way.
Wasblind, did you grow up in the religion or did someone find you at the door?
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WT SHUNNING POLICY: What has it done, or could it do to you?
by flipper inhi y'all, this is mrs. flipper.
please share your experiences with this, or possible consequences of being outed.. this recent controversy and resulting arguments all stem from people being outed - possibly losing friends and family because most jw's will blindly follow the watchtower's rules to shun them.. among people i know and experiences read here, the grief and loss caused by this is terrible, and maybe now is a good time to put up some experiences here, and put the focus on the worst villians of all - wt policymakers..
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Aunt Fancy
Reading Venetian's letter made me cry along with the other experiences. It is such a cruel practice and one that bothered me from day one. There are too many people who have been destroyed because of it and it is very wicked practice. I will never understand how they can justify it when there is no account in the bible of Jesus doing it to his friends and family. The GB is so blood guilty for their evil policies and I truly hope if there are any out there on the fence that they will read these heartbreaking stories and open their eyes.
Not to long before we faded we were with a couple whose daughter was DFed and we stood by their side through it and after she was reinstated I said to them at a gathering how wrong I thought the practice was and he turned and said oh no it isn't! After the abuse his daughter took and they were shunned by most in the cong while it was going on and he couldn't see the harm.
I feel very fortunate because my family were never JW's so the reverse happened to me when I left. My relationship with my family while I was in was strained because of it but we never stopped contact and once I left, my family was there for me supporting me. I am thankful every day for them and it only makes me realize what a crazy religion it truly is. My relationship with my only child was damaged because of the religion and as soon as we left we talked very openly with each other and that improved 100%.
We have lost most of our "friends" but that is ok. We have faded and so far when I see them around town they talk but there could be those that run the other way and I am not aware of it. When we just started to fade I found out I had early stage breast cancer and I had no support at all from those that I considered close friends and it did hurt but I moved on and decided they just are not worth it to stress over. It has been hard making new friends but at least my relationship with my family has grown so much so it was worth it.
I have mentioned this before but one of my sisters told me that every Christmas my Dad would cry because I wasn't with them. One year he told the family that Aunt Fancy is in a cult and we need to do whatever we can to keep her with us and not lose contact with her. He was so afraid that I would walk away from them but I could never cut ties with them.
My heart really breaks for all of those who have lost their families and friends over this, the pain must be so great. I have lived through some very difficult periods and gone through painful times but I am thankful I came out with my husband and I have a loving family standing with me. I realize now who truly loved me unconditionally. It is sad but it isn't the "friends" I thought I had.
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Fading hurts so much!!
by ILoveTTATT inyet another update on my story:.
for various reasons, i still have to go to all meetings.
(i am looking to change my personal circumstances to allow me to live somewhere else so i can fade easier)... i actually don't mind going to the mid-week meeting since i can comment on the bible reading, and slowly but surely i can introduce little seeds of cognitive dissonance... making it seem like i am super interested in what the interlinear says or that people can actually go and check out the manuscripts for themselves online!
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Aunt Fancy
ILoveTTATT, My husband and i were like some of the others in here where once we learned the real truth we just faded and never went into the KH again because we couldn't listen to their lies. I was so angry that if I would have been at the meetings I would have blown a gasket and probably opened my mouth and caused problems for myself. We also switched KH (we had been going out of the territory for years and got so tired of the drive) right when I had just started to read the books and we only went to one meeting there and then faded. We have had a couple of phone calls and knocks on the door because we knew most in that congregation but we also know that we have noting in common any longer and the friendship ended for us when we found out the real truth. I feel bad for those that have to continue to go to the meetings after they find out what the real truth is and ones that have to remain very active because they will lose their family if they quit.
I read yesterday where someone takes their IPad or whatever is comparable, to the meetings and they read things they are interested in. Some congregations have a lot of publishers that use these during the meetings but the congregations I have been in recently do not do that, so if yours is the type where you can do it then why not use that time to read the things you want to.
I hope you are able to find a job in another area because that will help you so much. We live half way across the country and his family didn't even have to know that we faded but his Mom kept asking if we were going to the meetings and hubby finally told her no and why. We also knew she wouldn't shun him because he is all she has now. His brother was DFed when he died and she continued to talk to him and her husband has been dead for many years. He was always her favorite but the relationship has changed which he likes because they don't talk about the meetings any longer.
Keep on the course of your fade and any time you need some help we are here for you. It is good you are reading everything you can get your hands on because you need to find out all of the lies and terrible things they are doing to people so you will have no doubts. I would then suggest you read some good positive thinking books to help with your healing process too. One is called The Slight Edge and another one is called The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself and The Road Less Traveled. My husband has read all of these and read them twice and it has really changed his attitude. These books will help you be successful in life and get the negative thinking out of your head which is what we were taught all of those years.
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Your Baptism
by Aunt Fancy inwe have been going through our literature and throwing away a lot of it which feels great.
my hubby came cross the program from my baptism in 1986. the divine peace dc held in the astrodome in houston, tx.
he always wrote the attendance and the amount baptized so on that day there were 30,894 in attendance nd 531 baptized!
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Aunt Fancy
Jim, I will ask hubby about that too since that was some of his stomping grounds. I know the KH's we were in on the NE side of the town didn't have them but they were a little newer. Things were much different back then.
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Got Home From a Business Meeting This Evening-Kids Were Watching JW DVD
by PaintedToeNail ini had a business meeting this evening, hubby elected to stay home with the kiddies (he could have come with me), as he said "you need a break, have some time alone'...so considerate...so i thought.
upon returning home, he had popped one of the new dvd's released at the convention, don't know the title, of some young brother who gets fired from a job and goes for a drink with a buddy from work.
it is very annoying that he pulls these little tricks on me, act like he is doing me some favor or being considerate then pulling one of these jwisms...like the time he booked an appointment with a physchiatrist, and he wanted me to go along to discuss his insecurities in our marriage because i had learned ttatt...he conveniently left out the part where the doctor is a jw.
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Aunt Fancy
That is a shame you are dealing with that. You are going to have to work extra hard to deprogram everything he is telling them. I would be so mad about the JW therapist.
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Christmas
by Mahtaw inwas raised a jw, started fading out about 3 and a half years ago.
i recently had a child, and my in laws are baptist.
they love christmas.
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Aunt Fancy
I grew up celebrating Christmas and it was actually the hardest thing for me to give up. Well, after 30 years of being a JW I celebrated it this past year and my husband who was a born in did too. He was a little uncomfortable at first but he had a great time watching the grandkids have a great time. It is such a fun time of the year and everything is so festive. You may find that you will change you mind especially with small children. I know that for many it is a religious celebration but many people of different religions celebrate because it is fun. Give yourself time you might find you enjoy it!